How does the life of spouses change after the wedding? Facts You May Know

Newlyweds just do not foresee the changes that usually follow after marriage. After a certain time, love, emotions and excitement go away, only habit and affection remain. Tender feelings are slowly fading, partners do not see the point of putting themselves in the best light. Each couple has their own life and love story before and after the wedding. Nevertheless, here is a list of typical everyday situations that you and your partner may be familiar with!

Weight gain

Surely now your partner easily picks you up, puts him on your shoulders at a concert, holds him on your knees or shifts you from the couch to the bed in the bedroom if you fall asleep in the hall.

A few years later, a woman (and a man too) can significantly gain weight. This situation is connected with the fact that motivation is lost to change your habits and body for the better. Surely you understand that your partner loves you, and therefore accepts the way you are, so why lose weight, refusing delicious food, if a man does not go anywhere?

In fact, no one asks you to lose weight. Indeed, you are right, if your partner really loves you very much, he will not leave you. You can gain, you can lose weight. But still, it’s better to discuss this moment with a man, in what form he would like to see you. If everything suits you at your current weight, then just try to support him. Allow yourself junk food on the weekend, relax when you really want it. You should not go on strict diets, if your husband does not even ask for it.

Eating habits are changing

As it was before: your woman refused an extra portion of ice cream, asked to give her less chocolates, in fast-food restaurants she took herself a light salad and ignored high-calorie foods. Before the meeting, she didn’t eat anything on purpose or even went on a diet.

What usually happens after the wedding? A woman understands that it makes no sense to seek a man, so she allows herself an extra portion of sweets, chocolates at night, and burgers. What can I say, every man, probably, specially bought a large portion of french fries, as his companion is constantly stealing a snack from him.

If you do not get fat from such goodies, then you should not change the diet. But if you dramatically gain weight, think about how you could give up junk food. Take care of your body, he will surely thank you.

Your partner used to be an athlete

Before marriage, the man was also very concerned about his body. He trained for hours in the gym, carefully monitored nutrition and always wanted to improve. He could not even cancel the date due to the fact that the hall was more important to him.

After a few years, you can probably notice your man’s sides or stomach. And bags from grocery supermarkets will replace his bar.

If you care about the look of your partner, offer to train together and buy only healthy food. You will kill two birds with one stone: tactfully hint to a satellite that he should take care of his body, and also improve his own shape. Believe me, a joint habit and a new lifestyle will even bring you closer.

Now you sleep differently

Previously, it was probably important for you to have your man hug you, touch and kiss you while you are falling asleep. You tried to spend as much time as possible together in bed, warming each other and giving affection and warmth. It was important for both of you to fall asleep at the same time.

How are things now? You or your partner occupy most of the bed; you can safely fall asleep alone. Also, you will not be upset if your man falls asleep with your back or does not hug you. Unfortunately, over the years, tenderness in relationships has been lost. Try to make up for it. Otherwise, your love story in one moment may end unexpectedly.

The partner constantly told you about his feelings

Surely not a single date was complete without words about love, not a single SMS ended with the words "Miss you." This is normal when a person expresses his emotions and feelings. Surely from all these words you felt joy. You know what the expression "butterflies in the stomach" means.

What now? Less hugs, kisses, declarations of love, flowers, gifts. The man sought you, tried to stand out from the background of your other gentlemen. After the wedding, many partners change their tactics and do not consider it necessary to show feelings.

However, this is a bad sign. Talk to your young man. Report to him that it is important for you to feel loved, periodically hear pleasant words addressed to you, receive unexpected gifts and flowers. This is the only way you can save the marriage.

The struggle among themselves for power

At first, the guy gave you the right to choose, allowed you to behave the way you want. Who needs restrictions in the initial stages of a relationship? You could calmly go for a walk with friends, chat with colleagues of the opposite sex.

After marriage, some men sharply begin to limit their companion. Begin to be jealous of all friends, check social networks, phones. In everyday life, they also claim power. Find out in advance whether your partner has such a behavior so that these features do not come as a surprise to you after marriage.

Neglect in appearance

You were late for dates, because you couldn’t find your favorite shadows for a very long time, and then choose the right shoes for your dress? Did you decline the offer to meet if you got an inconspicuous pimple? You were reluctant to go for a walk with a partner, if along the way you fell in the rain and your hair lost its volume? Often bought a beautiful lingerie and could not afford to appear in front of a guy without makeup?

Surely after marriage, you can afford almost everything: calmly walk in front of him in a face mask, with a bun on his head, in pajamas and with unkempt hair in slippers. You began to take a more relaxed attitude towards choosing clothes, to softly paint. You no longer wonder what kind of hairstyle to do, choosing a regular tail or loose hair.

Psychologists also argue that such trends in relationships can worsen them. The girl must remain a mystery. If you don’t try to dress and look better, your partner may lose attraction.

Men are no longer kings of their castle

Before the wedding, the king was the man at home. There was a complete mess in his room, there wasn’t even a grater or garbage bags in the kitchen, no one had ever washed windows and mirrors. Bed linen is changed every six months.

After a couple of years, the man becomes more independent. He does not mind wiping the dust once a week, washing dishes after his companion, taking out the trash and buying everything necessary for cleaning. Now your partner does not confuse dishwashing detergent and cleaning powder, and also understands what a metal sponge is for in the kitchen. This is definitely a plus of marriage.

Gender pay gap

Before marriage, the husband earned almost twice as much as the wife. He often spoiled her with flowers, jewelry and jewelry. You often went to expensive restaurants and booked five-star hotels for the night.

After marriage, the same man sees much less money in his wallet, because on the day of his salary more than half of the money is taken by his wife. And at the same time it requires the same as before, not realizing that the partner has no funds for this, because his woman takes almost all the money.

The best option is split money in half (if you are satisfied with the general fund). Or let everyone live at their own expense. Then there will definitely be no questions and problems.

Instead of a bouquet of flowers, a bouquet of greenery

Previously, your young man did not come on a date without flowers, and each time you were happy about it? Of course, after all, at the initial stages, men try to show all their best qualities. All means to achieve your goal (that is, you) are good.

But after the wedding, you probably get bouquets only on big holidays (March 8, your wedding anniversary and your birthday). Now your man brings only a bunch of greens and vegetables from the store. Of course, it’s good if you eat right. But sometimes you still need to please your woman without a reason with flowers.

Weekend entertainment has become more boring

What happened before: exhibitions, cinema, night walks, clubs, theaters, skating rinks, galleries, bars, restaurants, cafes, spending the night with friends, dating on the roof of the house.

What is now: bed, computer, TV, home delivery service. Where is the variety? Try to return to your former desire to be in society. If you constantly spend all your free time at home, you are unlikely to be able to maintain fire in a relationship.

The desire to flirt disappears

Previously, you were given gifts, flowers, your correspondence was half composed of emoticons, love stickers and emoji. You and your partner often hinted at each other, it was interesting for you to communicate. You often went to bed 2 hours later only because of too interesting active correspondence with a guy.

Now the situation is different: no flirting, dry correspondence, and you go to bed even before 12 at night.A husband approaches you with requests to cook him something to eat or wash his work suit - simply, concisely, directly and without any hint.

Add passion to your relationship. Without it, you will not live long.

Joint movie viewing

Every third date was held at the cinema. When you were afraid, you took the hand of a partner. When you watched the comedy, you laughed together for a long time at certain characters or moments, then discussing it for another two hours on the way home. When you just start dating, you experience a lot more emotions from any joint actions, whether it's a movie or a walk to home.

Please note that after the wedding, some of the emotions are lost. You hardly go to the movies. Probably, such exits from home have become rare due to the fact that both of you come to the conclusion that it will be cheaper to watch a movie at home, sitting on the sofa in an embrace. You are used to spending holidays like this, and they usually end up with one of the partners falling asleep while watching a movie. This is a classic (albeit boring).

If you don’t like the current situation between you, try refreshing your emotions. Walk to the nearest movie theater. Go to a movie that both of you would like.

Forget about romance

Before marriage: Your boyfriend invited you to look at the starfall, took you by car at the entrance, holds your hand while driving out of town, spreads a blanket there, pours wine, treats you to fruit and delicious snacks, you sit by candlelight, listen to the calm music, kiss, hug and look at the stars.

After marriage: You look at the stars through the window. One. Your young man has been sleeping for a long time. Do not be surprised at this, after marriage your spouse is trying to work more, because your needs are growing. No wonder he sleeps while you are not.

If you need romance, talk to your partner about it. Perhaps he will correct the situation for the better, and you will not lack the manifestation of romance.

Before marriage, the partner was carefree

Before marriage, your boyfriend could lie at home and do nothing. Spend your parents money without any thoughts. To lower all pocket money for the evening.

Now you are married to a completely different person. You live with a responsible man who distributes finances, calculates the needs and requirements of the whole family. This is not an egoist, but a caring partner who will do his best to earn some money in order to please you with a trip to a restaurant.

Children have significantly changed your life

Previously, you could go anywhere, anytime. You did not have any constraints. In addition, I did not have to agree on lovemaking (or even prepare, build schedules).

What is happening now? To just go to the cinema or to the supermarket, you have to ask your mom, girlfriend or neighbor to sit with your children. Often, couples forget about intimacy for several months. Either because of worries and hassle, or because of a lack of desire.

If at the initial stage of the relationship you understand that you can’t pull children (mentally or financially), maybe you should think, do you really need procreation? Just focus on your own existence and enjoy life together.