When you start meeting a new person, you should definitely clarify many things for yourself, so that later many unpleasant surprises do not come to light. Before you are topics that psychologists recommend talking to a man before starting to build a serious relationship with him.

Current and past addictions

You should definitely talk about this with your partner. And it’s not even about alcohol or smoking. You may unexpectedly find out that your boyfriend adores playing video games and devotes all his free time to them. To prevent such awkward situations and so that you do not feel lonely in a relationship, be sure to find out if your partner has strange habits that are unacceptable to you.

Financial stability

You also need to find out if your future partner you are planning to meet is financially reliable. And don’t think that you look absurd when asking about such a guy. Explain to him that you would like to know that behind him there are no debts and poverty. Only then will your relationship develop rapidly and successfully.

In addition, you need to ask the man a question about his finances in order to find out if he will be able to support his family in the future.

Possible problems communicating with mother-in-law

Another common problem with some people is communicating with relatives.Although this should not be a minus in the person for you, you still need to know about any potential future problems and think in advance how to solve them. Moreover, you will analyze whether you want to be in a relationship where your potential husband does not want to communicate with your mother and relatives.

STD opportunity

Although most people do not have dangerous or incurable STDs, it is important to talk about this with your partner. Be frank and ask him directly if he currently suffers from such problems or whether there have been STDs in the past. You must take care of your health.

Friendship with former partners

Another common problem for some people in a relationship: a partner is trying to maintain friendship with an ex-girlfriend. Everyone who has any experience in a relationship should know that making friends with a former partner is completely impossible and pointless. In addition, this practice can only create problems in a new relationship. Especially if one of the partners in the pair is insanely jealous.

Sexual Satisfaction and Intimacy

Another thing that you need to understand for yourself is whether your future boyfriend is able to give you pleasure during intimacy. Believe me, this is not rubbish. Many couples break up precisely because of sexual incompatibility. If your partner in bed doesn’t “light you up”, you will probably ever feel dissatisfaction in the man as a whole.

After that, you will probably need proof of what the man told you. Then check in practice whether your new companion copes with the task of giving you the pleasure that every woman needs.

Past conviction

You definitely need to find out (if only for your own safety) whether your new partner had problems with the law. Of course, if you are an optimist, you probably think that people are changing. But it's not always the case. In order to protect yourself, it is better to find out in advance whether your man had such a sad experience, whether he had a criminal record, or if he was not brought to any responsibility. Since a positive answer to this question can be a big problem.

Hidden feelings for other people

For some people it’s absolutely normal to enter into a new relationship with the “old baggage” of feelings. They believe that it is a new love that will help them get rid of the emotions that have raged in past relationships.

All that you need to find out from your partner is whether he cherishes his "old baggage" that he brought into the relationship. If for him the person to whom he once felt feelings is too dear to him, it is better not to start a relationship with a man, giving him the opportunity to put all the points above and.

Sexual experience

The partner’s sexual experience is, of course, personal information, and many girls would not want to know about it at all. However, sometimes this is extremely important. You don’t want to know from your girlfriend after a while that your man has already slept with the whole city?

Sometimes a man’s sexual experience can tell a lot about him. Will he be faithful in a relationship, will he cherish you and so on.

Debt problems

Knowing about any financial problems, you can decide for yourself whether you want to be with such a person or not. This is a very serious question that should be asked only if you are focused on a serious and long-term relationship with a person. Debt is far from what people discuss on a first date. In any case, you should be aware of any problems with your partner's debts, especially if you have been in close contact for more than a month or two.

What does a man usually do in a relationship

If you notice that your partner does not make any efforts in the relationship (does not give flowers, gifts, does not compliment, does not call or write, does not initiate meetings), ask him how he generally behaved in past relationships, what behavior it seems acceptable to him in a pair.

Without asking this question in advance, you run the risk of running into a sick relationship. You should definitely talk about this with your boyfriend in the initial stages of a relationship. The more you will be dissatisfied with your man’s inaction, the worse and more painful you may be.

Family and Children

If you want a serious relationship, talking about marriage and family is required. For example, if you want children in the future, and your partner does not want (or even physically cannot have children) this, you will think about whether to stay in such a relationship. Find out in advance about this so you don’t embarrass yourself or the guy. Your man should be frank with you, talking about family and marriage.

Depression problems

If you notice that your young man is depressed or is showing some symptoms of this disease, perhaps you could talk to him about it. You may be able to help, because someday you or your friend have encountered the same problem. Or you just, for example, know the contacts of a good psychologist.

In any case, it is necessary to monitor the emotional state and mental health of your partner. This is very important, especially if you hope to be with this person for the rest of your life.

Parent Relationships in the Family

Due to the amount of divorce and abuse these days, many families seem to be harboring big secrets. If you plan to stay with someone for a long time, you should ask your partner what kind of relationship his parents have in the family.

If grace and harmony prevail there, you can no doubt try to build a relationship with this man, because in the future there will be no problems when meeting with your parents.

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